As a practicing family law attorney in Southern California, one of the most common questions I receive from clients is: “How should I prepare for my court hearing?” Whether you're attending a hearing on child custody, spousal support, or a request for order (RFO), preparation is critical. Walking into a California family courtroom unprepared can cost you time, money, and—most importantly—credibility.
Below is a practical guide to help you navigate your upcoming family law hearing with confidence.
✅ Checklist: Documents to Bring to Your Hearing
Having your paperwork in order is non-negotiable. Here’s what you should have:
1. Filed Court Documents
- Copies of all documents you or the other party have filed for this hearing (e.g., Request for Order [FL-300], Responsive Declaration, Income and Expense Declaration [FL-150], proof of service, etc.)
- At least two extra copies: one for the court and one for the opposing party if necessary
2. Evidence/Exhibits
- Emails, text messages, photos, social media posts, or school/medical records, organized and labeled
- A printed list or binder with numbered tabs if you're submitting multiple items
3. Financial Disclosures
- Most recent pay stubs (last 2 months)
- Last 2 years of tax returns
- Proof of expenses related to children, health insurance, or spousal support
4. Declaration or Statement
- A concise written summary of your position (even if it’s not formally required), to help you stay focused when addressing the court
5. Court Notices
- Any minute orders, hearing notices, or mediation reports relevant to your case
Tip: If you’re unsure whether a document is needed, bring it anyway. It’s better to have too much than too little.
👩⚖️ What to Expect in a Southern California Family Law Courtroom
The courtroom environment may feel intimidating if it’s your first time, but knowing the process helps reduce anxiety.
- Check-in: Arrive at least 30 minutes early. Some courtrooms require you to check in with the clerk or bailiff.
- Mediation: For custody matters, expect a mandatory mediation appointment (not appearing at the mediation may result in a continuance of the hearing set).
- Calendar Calls: The judge will usually call cases from a list. Be ready to step forward when your name is called.
- Time Limits: Hearings are often fast-paced. Judges may impose time limits or prioritize urgent or matters that are shorter in duration first.
👔 How to Dress for Court
Court is not the place for casual wear. Your appearance shows respect for the legal process and can influence how you’re perceived.
- Men: Slacks or khakis, collared shirt (tucked in), belt, closed-toe shoes. A jacket or tie is optional but encouraged.
- Women: Conservative blouse, slacks or knee-length skirt, low-heel shoes. Avoid anything too tight or revealing.
- Avoid: Jeans, T-shirts, flip-flops, hats, sunglasses (indoors), or clothing with slogans/logos.
If you wouldn’t wear it to a job interview, don’t wear it to court.
🗣️ How to Speak to the Judge
Speaking in court is not like having a normal conversation. The judge expects clarity, civility, and brevity.
Tips for Addressing the Court:
- Stand when you speak, unless instructed otherwise.
- Always call the judge “Your Honor.”
- Never interrupt—wait your turn, even if the other party says something you disagree with.
- Be respectful, even when discussing sensitive or emotional topics.
- Stick to the facts. Avoid long-winded stories. Judges want relevant information quickly.
⚖️ Final Thoughts
Family law hearings in California can be emotionally charged and legally complex. Whether you're self-represented or working with an attorney, preparation is key. Bring the right documents, know what to expect, dress appropriately, and speak with respect. It is best to have an attorney represent you at hearings. The reason for this is because most, if not all, divorce cases not only involve highly emotional issues but also include an area of the law that most people are not familiar with. Trying to handle these issues alone is a mine field of not knowing what to say or do when dealing with very emotional topics like children.
If your case involves high-stakes issues like custody, support, or property division, consulting and hiring a local attorney can make a significant difference.
Remember: you only get one chance to make a first impression in court. Make it count.
Need help with your upcoming family law hearing in Southern California?
I offer consultations and representation in Los Angeles, Orange, and San Bernardino Counties. Reach out today to discuss how I can support you through your case.